Taking advantage of Judith Butler’s ethics of grief, this paper reads Lois Lowry’s The Giver, which depicts a futuristic, totalitarian community where all kinds of affects and memories from previous generations are deprived and only the Giver, born with a special ability to hear “beyond”, can have memories of human past so as to deliver them to the next Giver who can see “beyond.” The new Giver Jonas, who is now receiving memories from his predecessor, comes to realize the unfairness and injustice of his community when he learns and feels affects, particularly grief, from the memories. His feeling of grief lets him give up not only the borders of his thought but those of his community and see and respond to others beyond them. The Giver values grief as an energy capable of breaking the boundaries between “you” and “I” and allowing us to connect to others. As a part of the ethics of grief, sensing grief means to be ec-static, and being ecstatic with grief is to be transported beyond oneself, or to be beside oneself, thusly helping sense others’ grief, respond to others, and bind with them. And the novel, indeed, emphasizes such a power of grief.